A passive-aggressive guy is a guy who cannot assert himself. When you cannot assert yourself as a man, you are being submissive and your passiveness will lead you to secretly resent others. You don’t want to be the guy who punches others in the face.
The thing is, as a man to gain respect and become successful in dealing with people, you must be assertive instead of being passive or aggressive. When you are an assertive man, people will feel a sense of relief whenever you enter a room. If you feel welcomed everywhere you go it’s because you are the guy who brings peace wherever he goes.
When you are passive, on the other hand, people will view you as someone they can use. They may like you because of your kindness, but they will never respect you. When you are aggressive, you will be that mean guy that everyone wants to avoid. You cannot win friends and influence people or make people obey you by being aggressive. They may obey you but they will secretly resent you.
By being an assertive leader, you will be able to make people obey you at their own will.
Here is what the passive-aggressive guy like:
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A guy who can’t set boundaries.
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A passive-aggressive guy is a guy who would let you walk all over him and then indirectly act aggressively toward you. Instead of calmly confronting you about what you did and the boundaries you have crossed, he will act like nothing happened and passively seek revenge.
When you cannot set clear boundaries, people will not respect you as a man. If they can cross your boundaries and say nothing, they will not take you seriously.
As a man, you must have self-respect and not let people treat you the way you don’t want to be treated. If you respect yourself as a man, you will naturally command respect from others.
To avoid being a passive-aggressive guy, you must learn to set boundaries and have the emotional intelligence to confront those who cross them.
2. A passive-aggressive guy is not direct with his intentions.
This is especially true when dealing with women. A passive-aggressive guy would pretend to be her friend and hope one day he will sleep with her.
The thing is, when you are a passive-aggressive guy and not honest with your intentions another guy will come and be honest with his intentions and you will end up resenting her. You must resent yourself for not being man enough or having the balls to be honest with a girl.
The most passive-aggressive thing a guy can do in this situation is to try to hurt or take the life of the innocent guy.
3. A guy that can’t say no.
A passive-aggressive guy has a hard time saying no. He will passively accept the requests of others while he has to sacrifice his time and energy, but this will only lead to an internal anger that might burst into wrath.
The thing is when you cannot directly say no, you will lead a more stressful life as you will have too much on your plate. I am not saying it’s wrong to say yes, but other people’s needs shouldn’t come before your own. It is your birthright to prioritize yourself more than any other human being and of course, we are not referring to children.
4. A passive-aggressive guy is a guy who cannot accept no.
Since the passive-aggressive guy has a hard time saying no, he also believes other people shouldn’t say no to him. He believes that if he is nice to everyone, everyone must also be nice to him. The thing is, this kind of behavior is manipulative. Just because you said no to someone doesn’t mean you owe them an explanation.
We all have our own lives. Just because someone said no to you doesn’t mean they are bad. They just respect their time and their selves more.
The thing about saying no is that you shouldn’t even explain yourself why you said so. You didn’t come into this world to live by someone else’s expectations or rules.
5. guy who steps into other people’s boundaries.
The other thing about a passive-aggressive guy is that, since he cannot set boundaries for himself, he also finds it hard to respect other people’s boundaries. When you are a passive-aggressive guy, you will assume that since you don’t have boundaries other people must also live like that.
The thing is, if you step into other people’s boundaries, it shows you have no respect for that person. When you grow the line against a passive-aggressive guy, he will be mad at you as he will think you are cold or selfish.
6. A passive-aggressive guy is the guy who gossips.
A passive-aggressive guy is a guy who would be nice to you when you are around and talk badly about you behind your back.
The thing is, talking about someone behind their back only shows that you are threatened by them. They may have what you wish you had or possess the qualities you wish you had, and the only way you can make yourself feel superior is by talking them down.
The thing is, people will not respect you if the only topic you are interested in is talking about others. If you are a man and are trying to achieve something with your life, the last topic you should be interested in is talking about others. When you know what you want, you won’t care much about something else but your dreams. You will work on them regardless if you had a bad day at work or how tired you are. You wouldn’t care much about what a celebrity did or which soccer team won.
Having this attitude makes your personality too real for others, and they will also find it hard to figure you out.
7. A guy who holds grudges.
The thing is that most men don’t know how to regulate their emotions. They lack the emotional intelligence to confront a person without being aggressive. Because of their fear of conflict, they remain silent about how they feel. They may be nice to you, and you might think nothing happened while they secretly hold a grudge against you. You may think you are a friend of a person while they deeply hate your guts.
8. A passive-aggressive guy is the backstabber.
The other way you can tell if a guy is passive-aggressive is if he constantly tricks you. If you find that your “friend” constantly lies to you just to get out of your face or doesn’t have your back when you need him the most, you must get rid of him quicker.
The feeling of knowing you have been betrayed by the person you are supposed to trust is worse than any other feeling a human being can feel. When someone stabs you in the back, they make you a fool because it shows that they don’t respect or take you seriously.